Those who are married all worked to get there. Why is it after we’re married many of us stop working? Sometimes it’s because we start working on something else: kids, the office, golf game, working out, or decorating a house. Too often, we forget to work on the foundation of our marriage.
Marriage may not be the easiest thing to be good at, but I think it can become the greatest thing this side of heaven. It’s funny how we can get up have the coffee, rush to work, look as good as we can, make the calls, take initiative, bag the clients and that all takes work. What if you took that same energy and effort and put it into your marriage? Many of us would get fired if we treated the work site like we do our home life.
Here’s some things to work on to improve your marriage:
- Your relationship with God. The Holy Spirit can do wonders on us to bring about the necessary change we need.
- Read the Bible. God’s Word is an incredible marriage manual. (Proverbs, Song of Songs, Ephesians 5 & 6 are some favorites)
- Pray for your spouse. There is power in prayer and it’s hard to stay mad at someone you’re praying for.
- Read marriage books. Like Shaunti Feldhahn’s books that was our guest just last Sunday.
- Work at being a good listener. Put down the phone, iPad, and whatever else and give your undivided attention to your mate.
- Love your mate as they desire to be loved, not using your love language. (See Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman for more on this)
- Guard your thoughts and keep them positive about your spouse. (Use Philippians 4:8 as a guide)
That’s a great “to-do” list. I wish I could say I’ve got all these down, but I will say, I am still working on them and for nearly 30 years it’s worked for us!
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