I don’t think we understand, and often underestimate, the power of our words. I’m not talking about how powerful you think your words are. Instead, I’m referring here to what the Bible says about our words. In Proverbs 18:21 it says, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Wow, that’s pretty powerful! But think about it, haven’t you seen someone kill someone else with their words? Maybe you or your former spouse killed your first marriage with words that were spoken? Or, how about that job you lost because of something you said to someone that got back to the boss?
Too often, we are way too careless with our tongue and the words that quickly roll off of it. That’s why in the book of James, he warns us that our tongue is like a fire that can burn down our marriage, relationships and influence. Some of us need to get the fire extinguisher handy!
Last weekend, we launched a new series on the tongue and how to tame it. The question I want us to address is this, “Am I a better criticizer or a builder of people around me?” Anyone can criticize. It takes no skill, intellect, or wisdom to provide a negative comment. But, building someone up – that takes time to study a person’s strengths, character and personality, all with the intent of encouraging them.
People tend to live up to the expectations we place on them, so if you don’t like what’s going on around you, then you might just want to look at what’s coming out of your mouth. That boss might just be trying to live up to the jerk you think he is. Or, your kids might be trying to be the underachievers you declare they are. And your spouse might be trying to hit the target that you speak over them by assuming the worst instead of believing the best.
Why don’t you give it a try for the next 30 days? Your spouse may fall in love with you all over again, your children might start being more responsible, and your boss may accuse you of taking happy pills. One things for sure, our world would be a better place if we would put this into practice, don’t you think?
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