It seems that there is so much tension, strife and conflict in our culture today. Added to this is the everyday discord in many households with the people who live there. Daily we can learn of families being torn apart, violence in our communities, and unrest in our society. There is a better way – and we all wish for it. But, it takes more than wishing upon a star for it to happen. What are some steps to take that lead to peace?
We can learn to speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15). It’s not working around the issues, but through them. However, there is a right time, place and way to do it. What we need to do is confront the issue, not the person. When we do it in love, we become the peacemakers Jesus said we could be (Matt. 5:9)
Another step is to apologize when you are wrong. Instead of making excuses and blaming other people, we need to accept responsibility. There is a big difference between remorse and repentance. You can be sorry that you got caught, sorry that you’re going through something, and sorry for the pain. But, repentance is saying, “I sinned against you when I did that, will you please forgive me?” That can go a whole lot further in bringing healing and reconciliation than a simple, “Sorry about that.”
Lastly, we must learn to let all hurt, pain and damage go. I’m not saying that your hurt wasn’t awful, that the person didn’t do you wrong, or discounting the incredible pain and suffering you might have endured. I’m also not going to tell you that it’s easy to forgive, but it is doable. And, it is vitally important to moving forward in personal and spiritual health. (See Col. 3:13) Let me ask, “Has the Lord forgiven you of a lot of sins? How many? Did He do it freely without you even deserving it? That is how we are to act. To freely forgive as we have been forgiven.
This is how to bring peace to our marriages, communities and nation. When we do this, Jesus says, “They will be called the children of God.” Why? Because we look so much like our Father. I don’t know about you, but I want to grow up to look more like Him everyday.