Negative Words

Posted in Attitude, Criticism, lies, Mind, Perspective by PCraig on August 17, 2017

Is it just me or do harsh words seem to last longer in your memory than positive ones? Whether it’s through social media, texts or right to your face, do you find yourself being defined by words that were spoken over you in the past? Maybe statements like, “You don’t fit in, I don’t love you anymore, you don’t measure up or have what it takes.” Comments like these can cause us to compromise our morals in an attempt to be accepted or loved. They also can tempt us to perform in order to prove that we are good enough. Others choose to cling onto even unhealthy relationships in an attempt to find validation from people.

There’s a better way. Instead of basing our security and confidence as a person on the acceptance of people, we can get our worth from the acceptance of Christ. Here’s three parts of our position in Christ, we are:

Forgiven

Secure

Free

This means you no longer have to be defined by your past and what others have spoken over you. God has spoken something even more powerful over you – you are forgiven, you are secure, you are free! It’s time to shut the door on those negative voices and rise up and open the door of what Christ says about you. Get yourself plugged into the Word of God and what it says about you.

Replace the lies of the enemy of your soul with the truth of God’s Word and you’ll feel yourself getting stronger every day. Go ahead and try it for a week and see what happens. (I’d suggest starting by reading the book of Philippians)   Do you have selected verses that encourage you? Make a list and go over them until you believe it about yourself.

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Stop Playing The Blame Game

Posted in Decisions, Excuses, lies, Personal Growth, Victorious Living by PCraig on November 23, 2011

I used to like watching game shows growing up.  Some of you remember Match Game, Hollywood Squares, The Newlywed Game and more recently Who Wants To Be A Millionaire.  My family likes to play board games at home as well.  One game that won’t get you anywhere is the Blame Game.

How do you play this one?  Simply take no personal responsibility for what happens in your life.  In other words, if you have outbursts of anger, just find a person to blame it on.  “I wouldn’t have gotten so angry if you hadn’t said that to me!” For many, this much easier to do than saying, “I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have raised my voice at you like that.”

How do we begin taking responsibility?

  • Look in the mirror instead of out the window.  Instead of looking to blame somebody, try looking in the mirror and asking, “What am I denying the truth about?”
  • Instead of playing the role of a victim, try seeing yourself as a victor over self-deception, while believing the truth as God reveals it.
  • Quit comparing yourself to others (to feel justified) and instead compare yourself to Jesus who took responsibility for you and cried, “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they’re doing.”

The greatest day of your life will be when you stop making excuses and start taking responsibility.  Everyone around you is already hoping you will.  The only one you’re really trying to fool is yourself.  Stop acting like a fool and get rid of your baggage by taking responsibility today.

Don’t miss part two of our Baggage series this weekend!  (Addiction Baggage – Everyone’s Carrying it)

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Keep It Honest

Posted in lies, virtues by PCraig on August 26, 2010

I really appreciated the blog post by Seth Godin yesterday on “Little lies and small promises.”  In the post, Seth said, “I’ll be out of bed in five minutes, is not a true statement because it’s a promise not meant to be kept.  It actually means ‘go away, I’m sleeping, I’ll say what I need to get rid of you.'”  He went on to say, “You can already guess what the problem is with little lies.  They blur the line, and they lead (pretty quickly) to big lies.  The worst kind of little lies are the ones you make to yourself.  Once you’re willing to lie to yourself, you’re also willing to cheat at golf, and after that, it’s all downhill.”

Here’s my worst problem: Christians that lie!  How is that possible?  Can you be a truly devoted follower and tell lies?  I believe that Seth is right on when he says it starts with “little lies.”  Jesus said it like this, “If someone can be trusted with little they can be trusted with much.”  In other words, if you can’t tell the truth about little things, I’m not trusting you with ANY thing else!

How do we build more credibility?  Start telling the truth in the little things and the bigger things will follow.  It’s the little foxes that spoil things according to the Bible.  Hold yourself accountable to tell the truth in the everyday mundane responses to people.  Don’t lie and say, “I’ll pray about that,” if you have no intention of doing so.  It would be better to say, “That’s too bad, I hope it turns out okay,” rather than promising something you won’t deliver. 

Let’s keep it honest people!  Anybody else bothered by the lack of virtues?

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